Family Functions · Dasothan
Arranging Dasothan and Kua Pujan: The New Mother's Rest, the Walk to the Well, Songs, Chhuchhak and the Feast
The dasothan (dasuthan) celebrating a child's birth, together with the kua pujan, is one of the biggest family occasions in a village home. One thing sets it apart: the house has a new mother and a newborn only days old. Amid the crowd, the songs and the feast, their rest and quiet come first. Bharat Tent & Light House, Khorra brings everything for the dasothan and kua pujan to your home and takes it back afterwards.
1. A quiet corner for mother and baby
Hundreds of people may come on the day, but the new mother and baby need rest. So we:
- Set the tent up a little away from the room where mother and baby stay, so the noise doesn't go straight in
- Make a separate seat with gadde for the mother, screened slightly with kanat, so she can join the rituals and also rest when needed
- Lay durries along the path used to carry the baby, with no wires running there
2. Kua pujan: from the house to the well
In the kua pujan the new mother walks with the women of the family, singing, to a well, handpump or water source to do the puja. This part is often forgotten, but it needs planning too:
- Durries along the path if it is unpaved or wet
- Lights along the route and at the well (jhalar or focus lights) if the puja is in the evening, with a generator if needed
- A small durrie at the puja spot for the women, and a small shamiyana for shade if the spot is in open sun
If the well is far from the house, tell us in advance so we bring enough lighting for the route.
3. Songs: mic and seating
The women sing the dasothan and kua pujan songs together. For this we set up:
- A big circle of durries and gadde in the courtyard for the women
- A mic (on demand) so the singing carries to the back
- If you want dancing and a DJ in the evening, we place the speakers facing away from the mother and baby's room and keep the volume where the family wants it
4. Chhuchhak and gifts
In many families the chhuchhak arrives from the mother's parents around this time: clothes for mother and baby, jewellery, toys and more. Relatives bring gifts too. For this:
- A covered table in full view to place and display the gifts
- Chairs at the front for the mother's family
- A small gate dressed with drapes or flowers outside the house to welcome them
5. The dasothan feast
The dasothan feast is sometimes for the whole clan or village. Our halwai sets up the bhatti at your home, and we bring:
- Large utensils, crockery and serving counters
- Durries for pangat or chairs and tables, as you prefer
- A dining area separate from the singing area, so both can go on together
Tell us roughly how many people will eat; that decides the tent size and the halwai's equipment.
6. Weather: winter or summer
With a newborn in the house, the weather matters most:
- In winter: a pandal closed on all sides with kanat, thick durries and carpets on the ground, and gadde and rajai for relatives staying over. (We don't provide heaters or angithi; if you use your own heater, keep it away from the tent fabric and the baby.)
- In summer: an open shamiyana with coolers, but no strong draught towards mother and baby.
Tell us your date on 99918 64283 as soon as it's fixed. There's no charge for bringing everything to the new mother's home (within 25 km), and you set the budget: we agree at booking what the dasothan setup includes for that amount.
FAQ
What should we arrange for the new mother and baby on the dasothan day?
Put the tent a little away from their room, give the mother a separate seat with gadde behind a kanat screen, lay durries on the path used for the baby and keep wires away from it. If there's a DJ, the speakers should face away from their room.
What arrangements does the kua pujan need?
Durries along the path from the house to the well or water source, lights on the route and at the well for an evening puja, and a durrie and small shamiyana for shade at the puja spot. If the well is far, tell us in advance so we bring enough lighting.
How do we look after the newborn if there's a DJ at the dasothan?
We place the speakers away from, and facing away from, the mother and baby's room and keep the volume where the family wants it. Often a mic is enough for the songs, and the DJ can come later in the evening.
How do we keep warm at a winter dasothan?
A pandal closed on all sides with kanat, thick durries and carpets on the ground, and gadde and rajai for relatives staying over. Bharat Tent & Light House, Khorra doesn't provide heaters or angithi; if you use your own heater, keep it away from the tent fabric and the baby.
How should we arrange things for the chhuchhak?
A covered table in full view to display the gifts, chairs at the front for the mother's family and a small decorated gate outside to welcome them. We set all of this up along with the tent.